LOVE IS SELFLESS

July 24

Bible Reading: 1 Corinthians 13

1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

In 1977 a man named Robert Ringer self-published a book entitled “Looking Out for Number One.” It became a #1 bestseller and is still considered to be one of the top 15 self-help books of all time.  The book was based on the premise that since man’s inherent nature is to look out for number one, we need to do a better job of looking out for number one.  Here’s a quote, “We sometimes lose sight of the fact that our primary aim is really to be as happy as possible and that all our other objectives, great and small, are only a means to that end.” That phrase — “looking out for number one”—has since become a part of our culture’s vernacular.  But we don’t need a book to teach us how to be selfish…we’ve got the world, the flesh and the devil all encouraging us to live that way. 

The church in Corinth was rife with selfish behavior. They were not sharing in their observance of the Lord’s supper, and some were going away hungry. Some were suing their fellow believers. And they were not using their spiritual gifts to build up others, but to build up themselves that they might impress others. The truth was, that in looking out for #1, they had failed to look to the example of the true #1, the Lord Jesus Christ Himself!

From birth, we are prone to such behavior.  Children don’t need to be taught to look out for number one in demanding things, as we are all born to selfishness. We now live in that time of which we were warned, in which people would be “lovers of self” (2 Timothy 3:2).  The words “I, me, my, myself” predominate.  People live their lives according to a self-centered mindset, but this leads to frustration when the universe does not comply. As the Pogo cartoon once put, “We’ve met the enemy and it is us!”  What hope do we have for victory over the selfishness that lies so deeply rooted within us?

The Word became flesh and dwelt amongst us and in Him, a radically different manner of life was unveiled.  The One who was rich, yet became poor, didn’t seek His own when He ventured into this sin-needy place.  He didn’t seek His own as He perfectly subjected Himself to the Father’s will.  He lived according to the godly character that was innate to His being.  So, what do we discover as we examine His life?  He took on the form of a bondservant.  He came not to be served, but to serve.  He was accompanied by no royal entourage.  He had no home and no possessions.  He pursued no selfish dreams or ambitions.  He served others.  Purposefully.  Relentlessly.  Sacrificially.   He taught that it is more blessed to give than to receive, and that’s the way He lived.  He was surrounded daily by people having needs, and He gave and gave.  He was conspired against and betrayed, and then arrested and put on trial–still He did not seek His own, for He had prayed, “Father, not my will, but yours be done” (Luke 22:42).  He was accused and convicted, beaten and crucified.  He was mocked and insulted as He hung on that cross, but He still did not seek His own, for He gave His life a ransom for many (Mark 10:45)!  

How radically wonderful is Jesus’ example of selflessness!  On the merit of His willing sacrifice on the cross for our sins, we’ve been saved.  The cross speaks likewise to the merit of His manner of life, for He came not just to wonderfully save us, but to radically change us!  “Have this mind among yourselves,” wrote the Apostle Paul, “which is yours in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:5).  You’ve been called to a dramatically different manner of thinking and living!  He came to serve, He’s called you to do the same–in your marriage, family, workplace, school setting, church community–the question is not what other people can do for you, but how you can best serve Jesus in serving them?  Of course, it is only by the Spirit that we can do this!  But as He bears a selfless love in us, we’ve a unique opportunity in these increasingly narcissistic times, to bear a credible witness before a world of folks who need the Savior!

“But I am among you as the one who serves.”—Jesus

Make me a servant
Humble and meek
Lord let me lift up
Those who are weak
And may the prayer
Of my heart always be
Make me a servant
Make me a servant
Make me a servant today

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Author: looking2jesus13

Jerry L. Conklin was born and raised in Hillsboro, Oregon. After graduating from high school, he enlisted in the United States Navy and served for six years in the Navy’s Nuclear Power Program. He was assigned to the USS *Omaha* (SSN-692), a nuclear-powered fast-attack submarine, where he served as a reactor-plant electrical operator. His military service took him to ports and locations throughout the world and provided extensive technical training, leadership experience, and an enduring appreciation for those who serve in the Armed Forces. Following his Navy service, Jerry earned a bachelor’s degree in Nuclear Technology from Thomas Edison State University. He worked at the Trojan Nuclear Plant near Rainier, Oregon, first as a reactor operator and later as a training specialist. After sensing God’s call to pastoral ministry, he left the nuclear-power industry and earned a master’s degree in theology from Western Conservative Baptist Seminary in Portland, Oregon. Jerry served for twenty-seven and a half years as senior pastor of Lewis and Clark Bible Church in Astoria, Oregon. During those years, he preached and taught the Scriptures, provided pastoral counseling, performed weddings and memorial services, trained church leaders, and served individuals and families throughout the community. He also served as a fire department chaplain and participated in a variety of community ministries. After retiring from full-time pastoral ministry, Jerry and his wife, Laura, moved to Heppner, Oregon. There he served for approximately four years as a chaplain with Pioneer Memorial Home Health and Hospice, providing spiritual and emotional support to more than 150 patients and their families. In 2023, the Oregon Association for Home Care honored him as its Chaplain of the Year. Jerry also helped establish South Morrow County Seniors Matter, a nonprofit organization created to address the needs of older adults following the COVID-19 pandemic. As chairman, he worked with community leaders and volunteers to develop a weekly senior meal program, a monthly veterans’ lunch, and other activities and services. The organization served hundreds of seniors, mobilized more than 200 volunteers, and received statewide and national recognition. In 2025, Jerry was named Heppner’s Man of the Year, and his community service was later recognized by United States Senator Jeff Merkley. International missions have also been an important part of Jerry’s ministry. He has made ten trips to Uganda, where he has taught at pastors’ conferences, preached in churches, participated in Bible-school graduations, distributed Bibles and Christian materials, and encouraged local pastors and ministry leaders. He developed the discipleship booklet *First Steps with Jesus* to help new believers understand and grow in their faith. Jerry is the author of numerous books, Bible studies, devotionals, and teaching resources, including works centered on prayer, Christian hope, spiritual growth, and the person of Jesus Christ. His decades of preaching and teaching reflect his commitment to presenting biblical truth clearly, practically, and faithfully. Jerry and Laura were married for nearly forty-two years and raised four children. They were also blessed with three grandchildren. Laura passed away in August 2025 following an eight-and-a-half-year battle with cancer. Jerry currently lives in Hillsboro, where he helps care for his elderly father. He continues to preach, teach, write, and serve others through pastoral and community ministry.

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