THE CAUSE OF QUARRELS

November 6

Bible Reading: James 4

James 4:1-6, “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you?  Is it not this that your passions are at war within you?  You desire and do not have, so you murder.  You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel.  You do not have, because you do not ask.  You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.  You adulterous people!  Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God?  Therefore, whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.  Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, ‘He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us’?  But he gives more grace.  Therefore, it says, ‘God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

In a straightforward manner, James identifies the cause of the quarrels and fights that typify human existence on this planet.  The discord of which he speaks is pervasive—in marriages, families, churches, communities, and countries—and even exists amongst those professing faith in God.

What is at the source of the problem?  The word “passions” occurs twice in this passage.  It translates the Greek term “hedone” which speaks of “the gratification of the nature desire or sinful desire” (Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words).  It is the word from which the English term hedonism is derived.  Hedonism is “the doctrine that pleasure or happiness is the sole or chief good in life” (Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary).  The other particularly relevant words used in this passage are the terms “desire” and “covet.”  The first translates a Greek term which refers to evil desires.  The second speaks to the zealous pursuit of such things.

It is the continual lusting after things that is at the heart of the problem.  Man was created to find fulfillment and enjoyment in His Creator, but sin deceitfully distorts man’s way of thinking.  “The desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life” demand fulfillment (1 John 2:16).  The devil and the world would have us to believe that happiness is to be gained through pleasure (the desires of the flesh), profit (the lust of the eyes), or position (pride of life).  Man zealously pursues these things, although they can never provide true and lasting fulfillment and true joy.  They represent mere passing pleasures (Hebrews 11:25).

It is this always-wanting-more aspect of sin that works to put us at odds with one another.  Pleasure needs to be fueled.  Profit needs to be increased.  Pride demands more attention.  These things are often secured at the expense of others.  This sin borne attitude does not need to be learned, it is ours by nature.  It in in-bred in us through our relationship to Adam (Romans 5:12).  Adam and Eve sinned.  Then Cain murdered his brother.  Man has been fighting with one another ever since.  It doesn’t take too long for a seemingly innocent child to grow to display a propensity for selfish behavior.  The word “mine” soon enters a child’s vocabulary.  Children don’t need to be trained in how to fight over toys.

To live according to the dictates of one’s passions is to be a friend with the world.  The world functions according to “looking out for number one” way of thinking.  Passions are pursued according to a “whatever it takes to get ahead” philosophy.  But to befriend the world and live that way is to be at enmity with God (James 4:4).  God desires something better for us.  “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us” (James 4:5).  He deeply desires that we live according to His better purpose.  The world, the flesh, and the devil conspire to mire us in a quagmire of selfish pursuits, but “he gives more grace” (James 4:6).

“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble” (James 4:6).  Humility is a sure antidote to the prideful attitudes and passions that give rise to such discord.  Humility involves an honest assessment of one’s self in light of God’s holiness and our own sinfulness.  Such a spirit-borne assessment is an absolute necessity.  Pride puts us at odds, both with God and with others.  But in humility, we relate to others according to God’s design.  The various problems addressed in this chapter: quarrels and fighting, sinful judgment of others, and sinful presumption, are all rooted in pride (James 4:1-17).  Pride and passions lead to discord, but humility bears a better fruit (Philippians 2:3-8; Ephesians 4:1-3).  James summarizes the matter this way: “Humble yourself before the Lord, and he will exalt you” (James 4:10).

Pride and passions lead to discord, but humility bears a better fruit.

Make me a servant
Humble and meek
Lord let me lift up
Those who are weak
And may the prayer
Of my heart always be
Make me a servant
Make me a servant
Make me a servant today

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Author: looking2jesus13

Jerry L. Conklin was born and raised in Hillsboro, Oregon. After graduating from high school, he enlisted in the United States Navy and served for six years in the Navy’s Nuclear Power Program. He was assigned to the USS *Omaha* (SSN-692), a nuclear-powered fast-attack submarine, where he served as a reactor-plant electrical operator. His military service took him to ports and locations throughout the world and provided extensive technical training, leadership experience, and an enduring appreciation for those who serve in the Armed Forces. Following his Navy service, Jerry earned a bachelor’s degree in Nuclear Technology from Thomas Edison State University. He worked at the Trojan Nuclear Plant near Rainier, Oregon, first as a reactor operator and later as a training specialist. After sensing God’s call to pastoral ministry, he left the nuclear-power industry and earned a master’s degree in theology from Western Conservative Baptist Seminary in Portland, Oregon. Jerry served for twenty-seven and a half years as senior pastor of Lewis and Clark Bible Church in Astoria, Oregon. During those years, he preached and taught the Scriptures, provided pastoral counseling, performed weddings and memorial services, trained church leaders, and served individuals and families throughout the community. He also served as a fire department chaplain and participated in a variety of community ministries. After retiring from full-time pastoral ministry, Jerry and his wife, Laura, moved to Heppner, Oregon. There he served for approximately four years as a chaplain with Pioneer Memorial Home Health and Hospice, providing spiritual and emotional support to more than 150 patients and their families. In 2023, the Oregon Association for Home Care honored him as its Chaplain of the Year. Jerry also helped establish South Morrow County Seniors Matter, a nonprofit organization created to address the needs of older adults following the COVID-19 pandemic. As chairman, he worked with community leaders and volunteers to develop a weekly senior meal program, a monthly veterans’ lunch, and other activities and services. The organization served hundreds of seniors, mobilized more than 200 volunteers, and received statewide and national recognition. In 2025, Jerry was named Heppner’s Man of the Year, and his community service was later recognized by United States Senator Jeff Merkley. International missions have also been an important part of Jerry’s ministry. He has made ten trips to Uganda, where he has taught at pastors’ conferences, preached in churches, participated in Bible-school graduations, distributed Bibles and Christian materials, and encouraged local pastors and ministry leaders. He developed the discipleship booklet *First Steps with Jesus* to help new believers understand and grow in their faith. Jerry is the author of numerous books, Bible studies, devotionals, and teaching resources, including works centered on prayer, Christian hope, spiritual growth, and the person of Jesus Christ. His decades of preaching and teaching reflect his commitment to presenting biblical truth clearly, practically, and faithfully. Jerry and Laura were married for nearly forty-two years and raised four children. They were also blessed with three grandchildren. Laura passed away in August 2025 following an eight-and-a-half-year battle with cancer. Jerry currently lives in Hillsboro, where he helps care for his elderly father. He continues to preach, teach, write, and serve others through pastoral and community ministry.

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